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      Bessie Campbell Meets Henry Warren Ogg, Jr.

      A Story of Murder

      A Shooting in Fields Store

      John Roland Wallingford - My Dad...

      Mother's Day for Our Girls

      Marriage of John Roland Wallingford and Doris Corinne Ogg

      My Aunt Leona's Family

      Uncle Virgil's Earlier Marriages

      Wallingford and Ogg Christmas Photos

       

      Waller and Montgomery County Stories Generally

      Historical Marker for Fields Store Cemetery

      Letters from Texas to Germany in the 1840s

      Braving the Unknown

      Living on the County Line

      Prouse/Jarlov Stories

      A Jarlov Chronology

      Axel and Eva Andersen Jarlov

      The Jarlovs at Matawai - 1914 to 1929

      Flora "Tid" Jarlov Nixon Snapes

      Grace Prouse and Charles Cecil Nation

      McIlvride Sister Feud

      John Jude Taylor

      Houses of Three Prouse Brothers

      Phyllis Prouse's Postcard Collection

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      McIlvride Sister Feud

      Written by Nick Wallingford
      24 December 2014
      Family stories have it that there a number of long-standing family feuds among various of the McIlvride children, with various family groupings not on speaking terms for extended periods of time. Peter John and Margaret Isabella (nee McGregor) McIlvride had six children, five of whom lived to adulthood.

      The following two letters were provided by Joyce Montgomery, via Stephen Parker. The copies I have are photocopies, but are nearly clear enough to transcribe it all.

      The first letter is from Grace MacKenzie (nee McIlvride), who had married Alexander McGregor Mackenzie and moved to India, to her sister Christina ('Tina') Prouse nee McIlvride. Tina was Grace's older sister, about 3 years older.

      Names mentioned include Grace and Tina, Sandy (Grace's husband), one of their cousins Grant McIlvride (son of George and Janet McIlvride), Tina's daughter Grace and her daughter Christobel, and Tina's husband Richard Prouse. Tina's letter also refers to her mother Isabella as being at the centre of the family in-fighting.

      Grace's letter to Tina

      	
      Days Bay
      Wellington
      New Zealand
      
      19-6-28
      
      My dear Tina,
      
      I am on a 6 months' holiday to New Zealand and arrived home on the
      22nd May (the anniversary of your wedding) and will not be leaving
      for India before the 1st week of November.
      
      No doubt you will wonder why I am addressing you after so many
      years silence but necessity has no law.
      
      Some few days before our dear Cousin Grantie died he asked Sandy &
      I to take care of a large photograph of your dear little Gracie
      and her child, which he intended sending to her from Inida but as
      he knew he could only live a few days more, would we promise to do
      the needful, and when we had the opportunity either send it to
      Gracie or take it to New Zealand and give it to her with his love.
      
      I have brought the photograph with me and write to ask of you will
      you kindly allow me to call on you and make the same over to little
      Chrystobel, seeing dear little Gracie has left us for ever,
      if it is not convenient for you to have me call on you will you
      very kindly permit Chrystobel to come to the Levin Railway Station
      and take delivery of the photograph as I intend visiting a friend
      in Wanganui whose brother was married from our house in Aywer two
      years ago - On learning from you I will arrange my plans
      accordingly & I do hope you will meet me half ways and thus enable
      me to carry out my promise to poor old Grantie.
      
      Hoping this finds you and yours doing well dear Tina -
      
      I remain
      Your affect. sister.
      Grace MacKenzie
      

      Tina's response, several days later...

      	
      Weraroa House
      June 23rd 1928
      Copy of answer
      
      Dear Grace
      
      Evidently necessity knows no law or I would not be *writing to
      you* (struck out) answering your letter.
      
      It is a pity you should go to so much trouble over that picture
      and I don't see that any of your arrangements need be upset or
      interfered with on account of it. If you address it to me at
      Levin Railway Station and book it at Wellington Station it will
      come through alright - so you won't have any more trouble about
      that. If this does not meet with your approval I haven't any
      other suggestion. You mention my meeting you halfway. To me
      there isn't any halfway. When you were to leave NZ 40 years ago
      you certainly did not think me or mine were worth the trouble of
      seeing and bidding goodbye to. If my late husband and I had not
      gone to a good deal of inconvenience and trouble to come to Wainui
      you would have left without seeing any of us. Did you go halfway
      then? And I need scarcely remind you of the *reception*
      (underscore) we got on arriving there. Now the whole thing is in
      your own hands to do as you like about it. It does not make any
      difference to me what you do or what you think. It is many years
      since I troubled about you or what you did but this I do tell you
      I want no more your rows and troublemaking. I am a peaceloving
      woman myself and have always lived at peace with my own family and
      neighbours. But there are some people who never seem happy if
      they are not over the ears in rows. Mother was one of them and
      some of her family have kept it up pretty well. Now you know my
      mind about it - and you are free to please yourself.
      
      I remain
      Your Truly
      Christina Prouse.
      
      Copies of the original letters